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Saturday, November 29, 2014
Saturday, November 22, 2014
Wednesday, November 19, 2014
Want to know what I'm thinking?
Well, today is Wednesday & I just felt like saying HI! Have you ever had so much to do that you don't even know where to start so you just procrastinate? Yep, that's what I'm doing right now! Wishing I was somewhere else but hey, that's not going to happen so am posting a video of where I want to be....
Who wants to go with me? No takers? Oh well... Sigh... back to my work! I guess this will only be in my dreams.
Who wants to go with me? No takers? Oh well... Sigh... back to my work! I guess this will only be in my dreams.
Monday, November 17, 2014
Joe and his Split Brain Understanding the Right and Left Brain with Alan Alda
I always explain to client, students, friends, and well just about anyone who will listen how our brains work. Sometimes I can tell that some people either don't believe that we have two hemispheres of the brain or they just can't imagine how each part of the brain does something different (how the right side of the body is controlled by the left hemisphere of the brain and so forth). Here is a great video of Joe, who had his brain divided/split because of his severe epileptic seizures. Watch this 10 minute video with Joe and Alan Alda and you will be amazed by our wonderful brain!
Wednesday, November 12, 2014
5 Ways a parent of children with special needs can reduce the pressure
This post is targeted to parents!
As parents we have a lot of weight and responsibilities on
our shoulders! We have to work so we
can afford to live and raise a family (job duties & responsibilities). We run a household ~ shopping, cooking,
cleaning, laundry, maintenance, organizing, and juggling the finances. We
raise children to become positive and productive citizens, as well as, spend
quality supportive time with each of them.
Unless we homeschool our children we are sending them off to school to
obtain an education. Yes, we are there
to help with homework but for the most part we as parents expect the teachers
will be providing our children with a solid educational foundation.
This doesn't always happen however when your child has a
learning disability. We now have even
more responsibilities that add extra stress to our lives. As parents we have to spend countless hours
researching evidence-based programs so our children can learn; we become
experts on our child’s disability; emailing teachers and special education
coordinators to make sure our children are learning; spend extra money and time
on private tutoring and therapies; devote extensive time re-teaching the class
material and subjects that were not learned in school; providing emotional support
since our children know they are different; and limitless other responsibilities.
Normal life causes us as parents to break but there’s
even more weight when you are a parent who has children with learning
disabilities.
I love this video as an example of what our children
expect from us and how as a parent we sometimes just can’t handle the
pressure.
So, what can you do?
Here are 5 things you can do to reduce this pressure.
1. Take
care of yourself first! Yep that is
right, I said it – you must take care of YOU.
Just like in airplanes you need to put on your oxygen mask prior to
taking care of your child’s-- the same goes for here. If you are not able to breath, you will fall
apart and what good is an unconscious parent, especially for a child with a
disability? Plus, if you don’t take care
of you then who will?
2. Have
a support system! This support system
needs to be made up of others that have similar lives, children, and experiences. It feels terrible to have to listen to
parents go on and on about their “perfect” children when we just spent 3 hours
battling with our child about homework, chores, eating, and so on. When overwhelmed call someone from your
support system and complete the next step.
3. Put
a time limit on your venting and make a written list of the positives. The more we vent the more we feed negative
feelings and emotions so tell your support person you are only going to vent
for 10-20 minutes and then that’s it, no more.
Once the time is over you can only talk about solutions not
problems. After you have vented you need
to reframe life back into positives.
Write a list of positive things in your life.
4. Keep
your list of positives with you so you can look at them when you are feeling
depressed or anxious. Remember what we
focus on expands so focus on the positive things we have in our lives whatever
they may be.
5. Find
ways to mentally escape! As parents of
children with learning disabilities we take on a lot of extra responsibilities
and need time to mentally escape so we can relax. Make a list of ways that you like to mentally
escape: Songs that make you feel good and/or pump you up; books that have
nothing to do with parenting and disabilities (eye-read and/or ear-read); TV
shows or movies; exercise activities such as walking in the woods, aerobics
classes, biking…; or other activity that reduces your stress level.
Remember that you don’t want to be like Frankie
from the TV show “The Middle” shown here in this video where you snap. If you can take care of yourself then you can
reduce the chances that this will happen to you.
Finally, know that you are doing a great job! You have the hardest job in the world and just by showing up everyday fighting the fight you are a great parent! Kudos to you!!!
Saturday, November 8, 2014
Friday, November 7, 2014
Feature Friday: Words of Paul Hugh Ross
Words have a lot of meaning for me. I write my own blog posts, poetry, and quotes
but I also collect the words of others.
When I eye-read or ear-read words that touch my soul and connect with me
in some way-- I must keep them. I store
them in notebooks and fill my bookshelves.
Today I want to share with you the words of Paul Hugh Ross.
I have shared with you before about Paul Ross – here in aprevious post.
Well, I just received Paul’s book and I’m excited to
present this to you today as a Feature Friday, especially because Paul will be
launching his book tomorrow in London at the Festival of Dyslexic Culture.
I don’t live in London, I’m clear across the ocean in the
United States but I wanted you to know about this book and know that just
because you cannot attend this cool event or meet Paul as he launches his book
you can visit his website: Dyslexic Thoughts In Words and watch cool videos
like this the following on his YouTube Page.
I made a picture quotes of one of my favorite poems: