I missed out on Cartoon Sunday yesterday due to intense pain from a previous injury resulting from a car accident way back in February. When in pain it is sometimes hard to see that there is hope that the pain will ever end. To survive we must learn ways to protect ourselves from other types of pain such as emotional pain.
In order to protect yourself remember these 3 things:
1- You don't owe anyone an explanation as to why you can't do something. If the person is in your life and knows that you are in pain than shame on them for expecting you to do things you are not capable of doing. Don't feel guilty that you can't do the things they normally expect from you. You must get better.
2 - Love yourself! You need to treat yourself as you would treat someone you love very much. Put yourself first. If you are a person who always puts others before yourself you will not heal and then others will just expect you to take care of them only - if that happens go back to #1 and remember you don't have to explain just focus on healing!
3 - Finally, do really focus on healing. Being in pain can be stressful and if you are focused on how others are expecting too much from you or how others don't seem to even care about taking care of you than you are NOT focused on getting yourself better. Focus on the things that make you feel better physically and emotionally.
The more you focus on your own healing, let go of the guilt that you can't do the things you normally do, stop expecting others to care about your pain and needs, and treat yourself with love and kindness you will get better faster.
I know these steps are hard to do but you can do it! Just put on an armor and protect yourself.
One final note - if people in your life do not respect that you are in pain (or ill) and are not willing to take care of you then they don't need to be in your life. These people only want to use you for what they can get. Relationships should be supported both ways!
In order to protect yourself remember these 3 things:
1- You don't owe anyone an explanation as to why you can't do something. If the person is in your life and knows that you are in pain than shame on them for expecting you to do things you are not capable of doing. Don't feel guilty that you can't do the things they normally expect from you. You must get better.
2 - Love yourself! You need to treat yourself as you would treat someone you love very much. Put yourself first. If you are a person who always puts others before yourself you will not heal and then others will just expect you to take care of them only - if that happens go back to #1 and remember you don't have to explain just focus on healing!
3 - Finally, do really focus on healing. Being in pain can be stressful and if you are focused on how others are expecting too much from you or how others don't seem to even care about taking care of you than you are NOT focused on getting yourself better. Focus on the things that make you feel better physically and emotionally.
The more you focus on your own healing, let go of the guilt that you can't do the things you normally do, stop expecting others to care about your pain and needs, and treat yourself with love and kindness you will get better faster.
I know these steps are hard to do but you can do it! Just put on an armor and protect yourself.
One final note - if people in your life do not respect that you are in pain (or ill) and are not willing to take care of you then they don't need to be in your life. These people only want to use you for what they can get. Relationships should be supported both ways!
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