Often I hear people make excuses as to why they are not pay attention or fully listening to others. Excuses range from "I have too much on my mind" or "I'm not interested in the topic/person" to the most common excuses "I can't" or "I don't know how."
Well, listening is actually simple if the person has one key ingredient -- desire! If you have the desire to get to know someone or learn something than you will pay more attention.
Listening is not sitting there silently waiting for your turn to speak so you can share what is on YOUR mind. Listening is actually wanting to learn what the other person is feeling, thinking, doing... or wanting to learn about a subject matter.
So today, practice listening to others and pay attention to your amount of desire. Do you really want to learn more about this person or topic? How strong is this desire? If your desire is not strong you will not be a very good listener. If your desire is strong then you will ask questions and work hard to learn as much as you can.
Remember, the desire is to learn about the other person or topic and not your desire to share things about yourself ---- it's not to share your point of view or knowledge of the topic. If your desire is strong to share and talk then you will NOT be a good listener.
Well, listening is actually simple if the person has one key ingredient -- desire! If you have the desire to get to know someone or learn something than you will pay more attention.
Listening is not sitting there silently waiting for your turn to speak so you can share what is on YOUR mind. Listening is actually wanting to learn what the other person is feeling, thinking, doing... or wanting to learn about a subject matter.
So today, practice listening to others and pay attention to your amount of desire. Do you really want to learn more about this person or topic? How strong is this desire? If your desire is not strong you will not be a very good listener. If your desire is strong then you will ask questions and work hard to learn as much as you can.
Remember, the desire is to learn about the other person or topic and not your desire to share things about yourself ---- it's not to share your point of view or knowledge of the topic. If your desire is strong to share and talk then you will NOT be a good listener.
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