Have you ever thought that your life would be better if you just reached a specific milestone (graduate, got a job...) or if you found the right person or moved to a different city? I bet you discovered that your life did not get better. You did not have this magical change. Maybe because of Fairy Tales we expect life to just one day become perfect. Well, I hate to be your Dark Fairy Godmother and burst your fantasy bubble but that's not reality.
We don't just all of a sudden have the perfect stress-free life when we reach milestones or even lose that last 5 pounds. Life is really about learning to become as strong as you can and appreciate what you have and who you are at this very moment. Life is about dreams - it's about the journey getting to those dreams and not about the end destination. Yes, once you get to the end destination you will be changed but the reason you are changed is BECAUSE of the journey! It was the journey - the challenges, trials, and tribulations that made you change, not finally achieving this dream (graduation, perfect person, job, place to live......).
One of my favorite quotes is below in the pic quote I made. Kurt Vonnegut wrote "We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down." This is exactly the point. To have a full-filling and happy life you must become stronger and the way to do that is to go after your dreams, fight all the battles you have to fight, take chances, and be an active participant in your own life. In other words, get off your f-ing couch or computer chair and focus on making yourself stronger. Building your wings takes time and a lot of practice. Print this picture to remind yourself that your path in life is meant to be difficult and that is why it will be beautiful because you are full-filling your purpose!
Not long ago I heard a song that reminded me of this quote and I listen to when I want to be reminded that I can learn to fly - I just have to trust that I learn on the way down! When you are feeling like you can't keep going you may find this song very helpful.