Motivational Monday - 3 ways to feel more secure and safe!

The world is a crazy place!  We can be told that the chance of getting murdered, raped, or harmed in a terrorist attack are actually statistically small but that doesn't ease anxiety and fear.  

Turn on the news, and you will see a lot of negative in the world around you.  I want you to know that you do have some power and control over your own emotions.  You can reduce these feelings of anxiety and fear for yourself and your loved ones.

3 Ways to feel more secure and safe:

1~ Stop fueling the fire of negative!  What we focus on we expand so reduce the amount of time you are watching, reading, and interacting with the negative events.  Get just enough information to be informed and then turn the TV off or put on something positive.  Read only one or two articles in a day - don't let it consume you.  Finally, do NOT post propaganda of any kind on your social media or interact with those who do post this kind of information.  If you are the kind of person who feels the need to "educate" others on the reality of a situation, please understand that you are NOT educating anyone.  Each person has their own beliefs, and a post on social media will not change anyone's point of view.

2~ Know who really matters to you in your life!  Make a list of the people in your life that matter to you.  We have a lot of people in our lives that are surface people.  Surface people are the ones that we don't connect with at a deeper level.  You need to know exactly who matters to you in your life so you can spend more energy on them and less energy on the surface people.  Once you have your list made you need to take time each week to stay connected to each of those people.  You may not have had contact with them for years, but that's okay - reach out to them now.  If someone matters to you then they should know it!  If something were to happen to you or someone who is important to you and you have been staying connected it is more comforting.  Reach out and let others know they matter.

3~ Finally, Embrace the pain and bad things happening!  Bad things will happen, and you have control over how you deal with this pain and negative events.  Put joy back in your life no matter what is going on in the outside world!  Here's my best mentor - Leo Buscaglia - watch and enjoy!!!

3 steps for a more Joyful life

I am often asked by others how I develop so much empathy. I didn't really "develop" empathy, I was blessed with a very emphatic brain and an abundance of mirror neurons. Here are 3 things you can do to have a more joyful life!

I was raised to be a kind & caring human being.  My parents made sure I was exposed to great people like, Dr. Leo Buscaglia.  I watched his videos and I eye & ear-read his books.  His messages resonated in me and I began living my life more consciously - with the goal of connecting with others and bringing them joy.  

You too can live a life of joy - here's 3 ways

First, bring joy to others & be less self-centered!

Watch this short clip of Leo explaining how:

Isn't he great?  This is one of my favorite things to do- since I was first able to drive.  

Second - Forgive others for their negative behaviors.  I am very accepting and forgiving of others.  People often tell me that I should stop this practice because the people who treat me bad do not change; but I can't change who I am just because they choose to be mean.  

Here's Leo discussing having the courage to be forgiving to people who are unkind!  (He is quoting something I recently posted in a Dragonfly picture quote- because it is my life motto!) 

This is what my parents have taught me!  If you want a good life practice forgiveness (of yourself & others)!  

Finally, "Live like you are dying!"

You have only one life to live so live it well, do good things for others.  If you have treated someone poorly forgive yourself and make amends.  If someone treats you poorly then forgive them - remember that they are just living a self-centered life.  So to have a joyful life create joy for others.  Do this on a daily basis & I promise that you life will feel and be so much better.  Hugs to you my Dragonfly friend!