How to survive heartbreak~ Spiritual Sunday

People are going to hurt you; it's a fact of life!  You will trust someone with your heart, soul, secrets... and for some reason or another they will break this trust. Maybe they don't love you anymore or maybe they never loved you in the first place. Maybe they are too caught up in their own issues to care about yours or maybe they never really did care about your issues to begin with. No matter the reason you will be crushed and will feel like you can't move on~ but you will!  

It will be hard to move on at first because you are in deep pain because you allowed yourself to be vulnerable with someone. You showed your authentic self and were rejected. It will take time to heal ~ but you will.  You have a strong spirit in you that is full of love and nurturing.  When you experience heartbreak and disappointment you are learning more about yourself and your strength.  

You are learning that life isn't fair; we don't always get what we want; and not everyone we care about will care about us. You are also learning that you have a choice.  You can become cold and mean or you can open your heart and be a kind and loving person. 

What you focus on you will expand and I'm sure you don't want to focus on these negative feelings anymore so here is what you do...  

"Be the one who nurtures and build.  Be the one who has an understanding and forgiving heart.  Be the one who looks for the best in people.  Leave people better than you found them."  

By being a person who focuses on the good in others, gives love and support, and is understanding than you will have a more positive life. Don't let your pain taint you and cause you to be negative.  You have learned some valuable lessons and you need to focus on not repeating them but not allowing them to change you into a cold heartless person.  

When you are feeling the pain (and you will feel it for a long time) allow yourself to feel these emotions for no more than 10 minutes. After the 10 minutes is over than you must think of all the positive things you have in your life!  Contact people who make you feel positive, who support you, and accept you for who you are- feel their love!  Give love to others by helping out friends in need.  Focus on the gifts you have to give the world.  

Finally, if all else fails here's a post on how to let it go when you get stuck!!  High fives and hugs to you as you go through this difficult time!  

Are you being your authentic self~ Spiritual Sunday

Are you being authentic?  

Are you being your true self?  

Are you letting others influence you into being someone you are not?  

Make this the year that you stop doing this.  You deserve to be who you are and not feel pressured or shamed into hiding your true self!   

The other day I posted on The 2 things you need to do to make 2016 great one of those things was to make a short list of things you will NOT be doing in 2016.  I decided one of those things for me was I will NOT be bullied into silence this year.  This has happened too much in my past because I feared the consequences of speaking my mind. Have you ever not stood up for yourself because you were afraid of retaliation in some form?  Here's a past personal post on retaliation and what to do.

SO HOW DO YOU LEARN TO FOLLOW YOUR HEART?

~You need to work on learning who you are & we are going to work on that this year together.  

~Pay attention to the things you like and dislike.

~Notice how often you go against what you want to do to please others (this will be important to remember for a future post).  

Starting this very minute do something that your heart desires - even if it is only for a short period of time.  

This is just the start of discovering more about your authentic self!