Many times teachers and school staff really do care about the child being discussed. Unfortunately, there are some people who attend these meetings that just don't get it~~ They don't understand: the disability, special ed law, how much a parent is fully informed, evidence-based programs, how all the negative experiences are damaging the child's self-esteem, why parents care so much about their child, appropriate education, and so on....
I don't know why I am shocked by what is said in these meetings cause I've heard it all (oh and someday I'll write a book on this subject). I'm not looking forward to the school meetings for my own children this year because there will be some new staff members attending. See, I already have an interesting reputation in my school district so I never know what to expect.
I have made some words of wisdom buttons that can be printed and pinned to the front of your shirt or added to the top of your child's notebook (you really need to have a notebook of all your child's past reports & articles on special ed law/your child's disabilities).
Here are a few (I'll be posting some to my Forest Alliance Coaching Facebook page every once in a while so like that FB page to check out some new ones when posted- I posted a couple there todayForest Alliance Coaching on Facebook).