The Dragonfly Forest

They have been given names such as devil’s darning needle, ear sewer, horse stinger, skeeter hawk, and the snake’s servant. Actually, Dragonflies are beneficial, peaceful, and stunning. You are a Dragonfly if you are: ADD/ADHD, dyslexic, dysgraphic, Asperger’s, NLVD, autistic…

Monday, June 8, 2015

Motivational Monday Vulnerability is a good thing

I speak a lot about shame and being vulnerable.  I'm a big fan of Dr. Brene Brown.  Here are a couple past posts on these subjects:  Shame it needs to STOP and How to help! and Shame and why it needs to stop.

Today, for Motivational Monday I'm going to be vulnerable for a moment and share some personal ways that I have learned to battle my own shame and open myself up to being vulnerable. 

Over the years I had to hide the fact that I didn't read well, I never wanted anyone to know how slow I read because I knew that they would judge me.  I never felt that I was "smart enough."  Because of these experiences I learned ways to cope. I learned ways to communicate verbally to get what I wanted and developed some very intense empathy skills.  

Eventually in school I realized that I really was very smart and shocked that fellow students who were so "book smart" didn't know how to function in the world around them.  I knew how to ask for thing. I knew how to solve problems. I knew how to advocate for myself and most importantly I knew my strengths.  

I realized that everything in life is a lesson to be learned so if something doesn't work out right then I need to figure out a different way to make it work.  If someone doesn't like me than I need to find people who do appreciate me and get rid of the negative people in my life.  I love Brene Brown's quote: "Don't try to win over the haters; you are not a jackass whisperer." 

Does it hurt to fail and know when people do not like you, yes it does.  It hurts a lot!  What we have to remember these are real feelings because we are alive and because we have empathy.  Being alive and having empathy is much better than being like the haters who are numb.  The pain of failing just means you are trying and that is much better than the pain of regret for never trying.  

So, know this- You are of value, you are worthy, you are enough!  When you are open to being vulnerable you will be open for a more joyful and creative life - this I promise.  Again, you will feel pain at times but remember that these are just growing pains on the way to having the best life possible.