The Dragonfly Forest

They have been given names such as devil’s darning needle, ear sewer, horse stinger, skeeter hawk, and the snake’s servant. Actually, Dragonflies are beneficial, peaceful, and stunning. You are a Dragonfly if you are: ADD/ADHD, dyslexic, dysgraphic, Asperger’s, NLVD, autistic…

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

3 Ways to Deal with Death

I have been off for a while due to the illness and death of a family member that was dear to me.  Today I wanted to share three important points about the death of someone we love! 

1~ Death is painful.  It is a loss of someone dear to us.  Even if we were not getting along with the person at the time of the death we still feel an ache in our heart.  We need to remember that everyone will grieve in their own ways and "our" way of grieving isn't the "correct" way.  So allow others to deal with the loss in what ever way is helpful to them and do not make judgments about they way others express their grief.  A person with empathy will understand that each person has their own personal experiences with the person who is now gone -so do not project your own experiences on others.  

2~ Just because a person is not here with us physically we still have them in our soul and heart.  Every person we come in contact with leave an imprint on us in some way.  Honor and respect the person you lost by being a kind and caring person. Remember the positive qualities of the person you lost and practice these positive qualities so that you may become a better person.  Do not bicker and fight with others or act toward others in a negative way because this will only disrespect the spirit of the person who has passed.  

3~ Finally, you need to remember - although this loss is painful for you, it is not about YOU.  Yes, you may grieve the loss of this person's life but you really should be celebrating the life the person had.  Focus on the positive qualities of this person and the good things they have done in their lives. Appreciate the lessons you have learned from this person so that you can help others.  This is a good time to practice the old saying "If you have nothing good to say, say nothing at all."  No matter how close you were to the person who passed, tell those who loved that person you are "sorry for their loss" or give a hug and say nothing at all.